TIPS TO MOVE ON

Image by  Elias Sch.  from  Pixabay Confidence equips one to face any challenge or situation like how an umbrella helps us to move in rain. Self-assessment is essential when we do reflection and review.   Review refers to re-visiting something to double check for new findings whereas Reflection involves applying thoughts carefully on our attempts and results and trying to understand where we need to improve by getting into the why of every failures or improvement areas and what actions next. Instead of blaming others, focus on our areas of improvement in our reflections and target to improve self every hour will help us to perform better. Also develop the courage to face any criticism on the grounds of our self-assessment first. If we already identify our improvement areas, then any external comments on the same should not affect our action plans.

Image by  Gerd Altmann  from  Pixabay   Referring to the book “ Catalyst: The Ultimate Strategies on How to Win at Work and in Life” BY Mr. Chandramouli Venkatesan, I learned a great lesson regarding Quitting decision and Joining decision. It could so happen that finding a new option could be a reason for leaving the present one. This is applicable not only to career, but also to any other commodity or acts in life. It is important to keep them separate. One should have a clear reason for quitting something. Based on the factors that push you out from a place ( PUSH Factors), one can decide to quit or not. Once the decision to quit is made, the act of quitting can be at a later stage after analyzing PULL FACTORS for the new attempt against the PUSH factors of the leaving attempt. So, try to keep them separate and keep moving on.

Image by  Gerd Altmann  from  Pixabay   We have a tendency to compare always with others, but that is something if we can avoid, a lot of happiness can be achieved instantaneously. Instead let us compare against our self. Beat your own records every day. Success is a fight between you and yourself. This is true for students, professionals, business folks, families, workers, all. Keep our records as benchmarks for achievement and success will be an outcome. When we compare against ourselves, it is an inspiration for self to excel, but when we compare against our peers or neighbors or other competitors, it creates additional stress inside and that causes negative effects on our execution.

Image by  13smok  from  Pixabay We often listen advice – Don’t Worry. But is it possible? I agree NO. Recalling from the book “Million Dollar Habits” by Brian Stacy,  Do ACTIONS when you get worries, that helps you not necessarily from solving the issues, but will definitely help preventing your worries. If you can’t control them, avoid thinking of them. If you have any power or opportunity to contribute, do it immediately. With this strategy, we can overcome worries a lot. In case you see several issues approaching you, list them one by one and then look into each one and see what can be done for each. After this exercise, we can see we feel little relaxed rather than keeping all at one place. Some people feel to tell everything to someone else and after talking, they feel relaxed. But that is a temporary state. Your next state depends on the listener. In case the listener is not taking your updates the way you want, it can cause you more problems too...

Image by  Bryan Quille  from  Pixabay   This is an important observation I did looking back many of my own past experiences. We often tend to over promise and deliver excess information during initial stages of any initiatives. But in the long run how many of those practices continue? How many times we lost our credibility just because of some unwanted practices we started? This is an eye opening not only for career and business, but also for personal life. Summary is do anything which is consistent, and you can sustain.

Image by  Gerd Altmann  from  Pixabay   The biggest risk in one’s life is not to take any risks. Being in comfort zone always makes us weak day by day and gives an easy path to failure. That induces procrastination and additional delays in achieving many of our goals. We lose many opportunities because of our fear to come out of present comfort zone and face more risks. We need to keep in mind that Learning is a continuous process and we need more tough tests or tasks continuously for us to learn and thereby to grow. So, don’t lose any opportunity which comes on your way jus because of your fear or lack of interest to leave a comfort zone. Lastly, we can understand that nothing gives us comfort and every day is a new page in our life book. So the false notion of comfort what we feel is not true. Nothing stops us to try for a change ad Change is the only constant as per Heraclitus, the Greek philosopher.

Best way to deal with a complex problem is to break the bigger piece into small pieces. If we can isolate issues after categorizing them, it gives an easy path to approach the problem.  A few examples which one could separate the problems emerging in day to day life relate to people,  skills, health, logistics, infrastructure, cost, time, competition, innovation, emotions, nostalgia, etc. Often there is a tendency to combine them and then trying to solve the bigger problem.  Our brain hates to start humongous tasks. Hence breaking down a complex task into sub tasks enable a quick start and well begun is half done. That is the best way to approach any complex tasks in our day to day life.

Image by  John Hain  from  Pixabay   FEAR is fantasized experiences appear in real time OR Face everything and RISE. It is the feelings of danger which makes our mindset more horrible than really facing the danger itself. Here is a short tip to overcome FEAR : Think of 3 possibilities always : a) Worst case what will happen? b) Best Case what will happen? c) Most Probably what will happen? TRY TO HANDLE the Worst Case. Then you are fine. Yes, it is easy to say, but once implemented, FEAR is gone. Do practice to make you more confident and prepared in whatever way you can instead of worrying about the results. So Let us be FEARLESS !!!

Image  by  Sharad kachhi  from  Pexels There are instances where we get a mass attack of so many issues. At bad times, you may see several issues approaching us one behind the other. Avoid worrying about things which are beyond your control. Let them come! Start looking at each issue, preferably documenting them one by one. When we look at the list of pending problems, we are accepting them to tackle efficiently. Try a sequential approach to solve. One important TIP here is Avoid Handling multiple variables simultaneously. For example, job changes and relocation to a new city along with some important event in our life say marriage or having a child or starting a medical treatment or joining a new academic course, overseeing the treatment of some family member etc. When there is a change in eco-system, avoid doing more changes until you get accustomed to that ecosystem completely. Do such careful planning of events which you can have control. This will help you to ...