STOP COMPARISON

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We have a tendency to compare always with others, but that is something if we can avoid, a lot of happiness can be achieved instantaneously. Instead let us compare against our self. Beat your own records every day. Success is a fight between you and yourself. This is true for students, professionals, business folks, families, workers, all. Keep our records as benchmarks for achievement and success will be an outcome. When we compare against ourselves, it is an inspiration for self to excel, but when we compare against our peers or neighbors or other competitors, it creates additional stress inside and that causes negative effects on our execution.


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  1. Jayaraj NarayanaOctober 4, 2020 at 6:47 AM

    It is also noticed in any eco system over comparison creates unnecessary competition and uneasy feelings which adds to list of “Push Factors” eventually.

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  2. Jayaraj NarayanaOctober 4, 2020 at 11:34 AM

    Today I saw a note from Marwin Snippe " Competing against others can have a profound effect on your stress level and your well being and it invites scarcity. Rather focus on improving yourself daily which will eventually separate you from others with a motivational boost"

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    1. Devaraj PachaiyappanOctober 5, 2020 at 8:41 AM

      Comparing with others is certainly not good as it very badly impacts our happiness. As we know, everybody in this world is unique and has their own potential. We should always go with our own instinct, interest and self motivation to achieve our goals rather than unnecessarily wasting time in comparing with others and making ourself weak. It's always better to set goals and put all kind of effort to achieve it which will for sure give us humongous amount of happiness and success.

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    2. Jayaraj NarayanaOctober 5, 2020 at 11:14 AM

      Thank you Devaraj for your time and valuable comments.

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